THE PROVEN SYSTEM FOR AMBITIOUS FATHERS 

Excel in Business Without Missing the Golden Years at Home, or Losing Yourself in the Process

 
You’re in the peak of your career, and your kids are in the most formative years of their lives. But the constant pull between business demands and being present at home leaves you scattered, reactive and exhausted. I’ll help you install a proven system to protect your time, sharpen your focus and expand your capacity, so you can grow your business without missing the moments that matter most. 
What Others Are Saying

How much has the juggling act cost you?

 

How many days a week do you actually feel like you’re thriving - as a dad, a partner and a professional? One or two? Maybe none?

You’ve tried to make it work.

You’ve set goals, made plans and told yourself: “This time will be different.”

But the chaos always creeps back in.

Work Deadlines.

Sleepless nights.

Kids who need more than you feel you’ve got left to give.

And worst of all, you struggle to keep the promises you have made to yourself.

And just like that, you’re back where you started.

Your health, your marriage, your sense of self - it’s like you’re always almost there, but never quite on top of it.

 

Sound familiar?

 

The issue isn’t a lack of effort or ambition

 

It’s that you’re stuck trying to constantly figure out how to make it all work.

You’ve read the books.

Listened to the podcasts.

Tried the apps.

Maybe you even nailed a morning routine for a few weeks.

But it never sticks.

You’re not lazy.

You’re not broken.

You’re just caught in patterns that keep pulling you back.

And after enough false starts, you start to wonder…

“Is this just what life looks like now?”

On paper, things are good.

But deep down you know, you’re missing a piece.

 

You’re missing you.

 

You don’t need another hack or habit tracker

 

You need a system that actually fits your life.

Because the problem isn’t your schedule, your job or your kids.

It’s the invisible brakes, the habits and thought patterns that keep slowing you down, burning you out and pulling you off course.

That’s where the work begins.

When you have a system built for your reality - not a guru’s highlight reel - everything starts to shift.

 

✅ You take control of your time.

✅ You protect and forge your energy.

✅ You reconnect with what matters most.

 

This isn’t about doing more.

It’s about living better.

 

For your family. For your work. For yourself.

Robin F

Ex-BBC Journalist, husband and father of 2

“I was looking for guidance, support, and a friend. Someone who understood the unique challenges good men and responsible men face in a changing world. Someone who could hold me accountable but who didn’t judge, who could provide constructive advice and insight. Someone who had a proven record of leading by example. Moreover, someone who had himself worked through tested methods for improving one’s productivity effectiveness and self discipline in our varied, multifaceted roles in life, as a parent, a husband, and as a professional  (in my case as a storyteller, videographer and journalist). I found that person in Tobi. Thank you Tobi for accompanying me on my journey towards becoming a stronger, healthier, fitter, happier and more disciplined version of myself. Comfortable being who I am, and comfortable believing in my potential  for change. I’m continuing on that journey, realising those dreams that until I met Tobi I had scarcely dared to dream.”

Tyler V

Marketing Exec, Husband, Father of 4

 

Ben C

Communications Exec, Husband & Father of 3

“Like many, I found it immensely difficult to balance my professional commitments, family life, personal goals, and (lowest on my list) exercise. When I first came across Tobi, I couldn't believe all he did—and moreover, how healthy, cheerful, and positive he presented himself in every interaction. Since I've had the privilege of working with him for several months, my respect for him as only deepened. He's taught me how to focus, prioritize, and to train myself gently, day by day, to be disciplined. He has helped me become a better version of myself. Could not recommend him more highly to anyone in a situation like mine: busy, harried, and seeking order. Tobi's unlike anyone else I know.”

Harrison S

Entrepreneur, Husband & Father of 3

“I've worked with Tobi for close to 3 years now, and I can't say enough good things about him and his programming. We talk at least once per week, and every time I do I feel more present and organized as I approach my life as an entrepreneur and dad of 3.

If you're a high performer who wants to maximize his focus, time, and discipline so you have time for the truly important stuff, you NEED to work with Tobi. He's been an absolute blessing in my life, and I know he will be for yours too.”

Husband. Father of 7. CEO. Coach. Constant work in progress. 

Hi, I’m Tobi, and the truth is, I’ve worn a lot of hats over the years.

Right now, I lead a social care charity in Scotland. I started there nearly 20 years ago as a volunteer. I’m also a dad to seven amazing kids, and I coach high-performing fathers who want to thrive at home and at work without burning out.

But it took me a long time - and more than one personal crash - to realise that doing more wasn’t the answer.

For most of my adult life, I’ve lived with a full plate.

In my twenties, I commuted to university in one city while working full time in another. I studied economics through three degrees, eventually earning a PhD, all while working in care and raising a young family.

Inbox zero. Colour-coded calendars. Ruthless efficiency.

I was proud of how many plates I could spin.

But eventually, life got more complex, and those old systems stopped working.

In 2024, I burned out.

CEO Tobi

I was trying to lead a growing organisation and a growing family using systems that made sense for a man I no longer was.

We had six children then. I was mentoring other dads. Running a team. Trying to stay fit.

And yet I constantly felt like I was falling short where it mattered most: being present, staying grounded, leading with consistency.

Despite years of leadership and personal development, I had neglected the basics.

I thought I could push through. That I just needed to be more productive.

But what I really needed was to evolve.

Discipline Isn’t the Enemy. It’s the Path.

We say we want more time.

More peace.

More energy at home.

But what we really need is structure.

Structure that reflects our values.

Rhythms that create margin for what matters.

Systems that help us lead at home with the same clarity we bring to work.

I stopped trying to balance everything.

I started building a way of life that could support who I was becoming.

 

That’s How the Hybrid Dad Engine Was Built

The Hybrid Dad Engine is the system I live by. It’s built around three interconnected gears:

🟠 Presence – So you’re emotionally and mentally available where it matters most

🟠 Progress – So you continue to grow as a leader, husband, and man

🟠 Systems – So your life runs with sustainability, not stress

This isn’t a product or a quick fix.

It’s a framework I’ve refined through real life, and now teach to other men.

What I Believe

I believe fatherhood is leadership.

I believe being a great dad has nothing to do with being perfect.

It has everything to do with showing up on purpose.

Being fully present.

Building the kind of strength that lets your family rest in your steadiness.

This isn’t a lifestyle tweak.

It’s a legacy shift.

And I’m here to help other dads build theirs.

 

If you’ve read this far, thanks for being here.

Whether you’re leading a team, a business, a family, or all three:

I’d be honoured to help you build a life that works with you, not against you.

Because the man your family needs ten years from now is being built today.

And you don’t have to build him alone.

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Jon F

Bestselling author, Husband & Father of 2

 

“The first time I saw Tobi online he was running through the Scottish Highlands at midnight with a backpack on and a flashlight on his head. The second time he was deadlifting in his home gym at 5AM. And the third time he was taking his kids on a nature hike. My first thought was: this is my kinda guy. My second thought: I wonder what makes him tick? I’ve been lucky enough to get to know Tobi a bit, but for those who want to really understand his philosophy of living: how he runs a business, is a present dad and husband, and manages to stay jacked the whole time. He will put any dad on the path to forging their strongest self.”

 Jeremy S

Entrepreneur, Husband & Father of 2

“I first met Tobi almost 2 years ago on Twitter. I started following him for his productivity tips. But I soon learned that he was a CEO, Dad of 6 kids, hybrid athlete tackling some of the toughest races in Scotland all while creating killer content. As a creator, Dad and athlete myself I couldn’t figure out how he was getting it all done at such a high level. He’ll help you apply the principles underlying his systems to your life because the truth is having a job and family is no reason to give up on your health and fitness goals. They’re the reason to become your best self.”

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This is premium 1:1 coaching for ambitious, overstretched dads who are ready to live with clarity, connection and control - without burning out or missing what matters most.

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BOOKS, TEMPLATES, COURSES  

 

Proven resources to help you take back control of your time, energy, and focus so you can lead your life with clarity and purpose and not just manage it. 

Explore here

 Preston B

Entrepreneur, Husband & Father of 4

Coaching with Tobi was one of the most impactful choices of my personal life and my career. Before I started, my life was a constant to-and-fro dance of doing things too much or too little. Either I was caught up on work, getting quality time with my wife, getting quality time with my kids, or growing personally, but never more than one or two of those things at a time. I felt stuck in a pattern of swinging back and forth between doing one thing too much and everything else too little.

I don’t think I had ever DM’d a random stranger on Twitter before, but Tobi sent a tweet about looking for busy dads who wanted to find balance in their life and it really resonated with me. As someone who never had a coach before, I was nervous about the process.

Our first meeting calmed my nerves and got me very excited. His approach wasn’t some pre-baked course to sell or 5 steps to fix XYZ, he wanted to know what my goals were, what problems I was facing, and what motivated me to change. Every piece of advice was catered to my situation and perspective. Tobi has wisdom on many topics, and a way with words that is persuasive without being abrasive.

What did I find?

Over the course of our relationship, our sessions were consistently the highlight of my week. It was time spent working on balancing life, rather than time spent working on one individual task. Not only that, but my wife noticed a major difference in my development and our relationship too, and quickly became a fan of Tobi just from seeing the results.

She once told me: “I feel like you’ve been in a really good place lately, more than normal. Your patience with the kids, attitude, motivation, I’m not sure what exactly it is. But whatever Tobi is doing, it’s working.” 😂

Nowadays it’s hard to imagine life before coaching. There are so many new habits with my kids, wife, work, and career that it’s difficult to keep track of. Some of these are daily or weekly, some yearly.

A key part of this journey was finding joy in fitness. This isn’t something I’ve ever felt good at or motivated to do before, but during my time with Tobi I got into the best shape I’ve ever been in. My eating habits, strength, and cardio were all transformed. I’m lifting more weight and running further than I ever have in my life.

Not only that, but I’ve found long-term practices that I enjoy. Fitness that I feel is easily maintainable over the course of my life, rather than a short-term experiment.

Who would I recommend it to?

If you value balance in life, feel like your actions don’t always align with your priorities, or feel stuck under insurmountable responsibilities, I can’t recommend Tobi highly enough.

If you’re early in your career or marriage and want to create balance before it becomes an issue, again, I cannot recommend him highly enough.

If you lack motivation, struggle with eating right, exercising, or sleeping enough, I’d recommend talking with Tobi.

To those who may say, “you’re just listing every topic there is,” I’d say: Balance is never about just one thing.

When was the last time you deeply regretted investing in your wellbeing?

 


 

Ross H

Entrepreneur & Coach

“Tobi is the real deal. A father, husband and man, constantly pushing for progress and setting the example for his family. He doesn’t just “talk the talk” but he walks the walk. He lives by what he shares in the pursuit of becoming the best leader he can be - at home, at work and within himself.”

 


 

Tom H

Software Engineer, Husband, Father of 2

“Tobi's lessons and leadership by example helped me grow as a father and leader. The Hybrid Dad framework is everything you need to become the leader your family as well as your community and business need. Highly recommend.”

 


 

Niklas G

Surgeon, Husband, Father of 3

“Tobi's coaching helped me a lot to get myself more organized and less worried facing daily problems in business using the lessons on mental toughness.”

 


 

Julian G

Software Executive, Husband, Father of 3

“Successful business leader, athlete, father of 6 - Tobi walks the walk in a way very few others can. Everything that attracted me to him when we first chatted played out over the subsequent months we spent together as his insights into work, family, relationships, physical health were all invaluable on the journey I was on. His coaching approach is validated by his unique life experience but comes with a dose of humility and openness that made me feel like I was always in control and getting to the places I needed to be. He's a thoughtful and inspiring person that had a meaningful impact in my life and delighted to now call a friend”

 


 

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Startup Dad Podcast

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No Limits Podcast

We discuss fatherhood, sharing our journeys online, family, marriage and the endless pursuit of fitness to be healthy for our kids.

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