THE PROVEN SYSTEM FOR BUSINESS LEADERS 

Excel in Business Without Missing the Golden Years at Home, and Forge Your Strongest Self

 

You’re operating at the highest levels, but the pressure to perform at work while staying present at home is relentless. You feel stretched thin, reactive and worn down. I coach high-achieving leaders to build unshakable discipline, increase their energy and lead with clarity both at work and at home. Using battle-tested systems, we’ll reclaim your time, harden your mindset and transform your body, so you can scale your impact without sacrificing your family or your health.

What Others Are Saying

What has the juggling act really cost you? 

 

How often do you actually feel like you’re winning as a dad, a partner and a professional? Once or twice a week? Maybe not at all?

You’ve pushed.

You’ve planned.

You’ve told yourself, “This time will be different.”

But the chaos always creeps back in.

Back-to-back meetings.

Broken sleep.

Kids needing more than you feel capable of giving.

And the worst part? You keep breaking the promises you’ve made to yourself.

Just like that, you’re back where you started.

Your fitness. Your marriage. Your identity. Always just out of reach, like you’re running hard but never quite gaining ground.

Sound familiar?

 

The issue isn’t effort or ambition.

 

It’s that you’re stuck in the loop, trying to figure it all out on your own.

You’ve read the books.

You’ve binged the podcasts.

You’ve downloaded the apps and even nailed a morning routine for a while.

But nothing sticks.

Not because you’re undisciplined.

Not because you’re broken.

You’re just running with the wrong operating system. One that wasn’t designed for the reality of a high-performing leader with a family to lead and a body to maintain.

Eventually, after enough failed resets, the question creeps in…

“Is this just how it is now?”

On the surface, life looks successful.

But deep down, you feel disconnected. Like something’s missing.

And that missing piece is you.

 

You don’t need another hack or habit stack.

 

You need a system built around your real life.

Because the problem isn’t your calendar, your job, or your kids.

It’s the hidden patterns, the thought loops, the energy leaks, the habits that keep you stuck and worn down.

That’s where the real work begins.

When you run a system built for your reality, everything changes.

✅ You take ownership of your time

✅ You rebuild physical and mental resilience

✅ You lead at home the way you lead at work

This isn’t about doing more.

It’s about living better.

 

For your business. For your family. For yourself.

 Preston B

Entrepreneur, Husband & Father of 4

Coaching with Tobi was one of the most impactful choices of my personal life and my career. Before I started, my life was a constant to-and-fro dance of doing things too much or too little. Either I was caught up on work, getting quality time with my wife, getting quality time with my kids, or growing personally, but never more than one or two of those things at a time. I felt stuck in a pattern of swinging back and forth between doing one thing too much and everything else too little.

I don’t think I had ever DM’d a random stranger on Twitter before, but Tobi sent a tweet about looking for busy dads who wanted to find balance in their life and it really resonated with me. As someone who never had a coach before, I was nervous about the process.

Our first meeting calmed my nerves and got me very excited. His approach wasn’t some pre-baked course to sell or 5 steps to fix XYZ, he wanted to know what my goals were, what problems I was facing, and what motivated me to change. Every piece of advice was catered to my situation and perspective. Tobi has wisdom on many topics, and a way with words that is persuasive without being abrasive.

What did I find?

Over the course of our relationship, our sessions were consistently the highlight of my week. It was time spent working on balancing life, rather than time spent working on one individual task. Not only that, but my wife noticed a major difference in my development and our relationship too, and quickly became a fan of Tobi just from seeing the results.

She once told me: “I feel like you’ve been in a really good place lately, more than normal. Your patience with the kids, attitude, motivation, I’m not sure what exactly it is. But whatever Tobi is doing, it’s working.” 😂

Nowadays it’s hard to imagine life before coaching. There are so many new habits with my kids, wife, work, and career that it’s difficult to keep track of. Some of these are daily or weekly, some yearly.

A key part of this journey was finding joy in fitness. This isn’t something I’ve ever felt good at or motivated to do before, but during my time with Tobi I got into the best shape I’ve ever been in. My eating habits, strength, and cardio were all transformed. I’m lifting more weight and running further than I ever have in my life.

Not only that, but I’ve found long-term practices that I enjoy. Fitness that I feel is easily maintainable over the course of my life, rather than a short-term experiment.

Who would I recommend it to?

If you value balance in life, feel like your actions don’t always align with your priorities, or feel stuck under insurmountable responsibilities, I can’t recommend Tobi highly enough.

If you’re early in your career or marriage and want to create balance before it becomes an issue, again, I cannot recommend him highly enough.

If you lack motivation, struggle with eating right, exercising, or sleeping enough, I’d recommend talking with Tobi.

To those who may say, “you’re just listing every topic there is,” I’d say: Balance is never about just one thing.

When was the last time you deeply regretted investing in your wellbeing?

Robin F

Ex-BBC Journalist, husband and father of 2

“I was looking for guidance, support, and a friend. Someone who understood the unique challenges good men and responsible men face in a changing world. Someone who could hold me accountable but who didn’t judge, who could provide constructive advice and insight. Someone who had a proven record of leading by example. Moreover, someone who had himself worked through tested methods for improving one’s productivity effectiveness and self discipline in our varied, multifaceted roles in life, as a parent, a husband, and as a professional  (in my case as a storyteller, videographer and journalist). I found that person in Tobi. Thank you Tobi for accompanying me on my journey towards becoming a stronger, healthier, fitter, happier and more disciplined version of myself. Comfortable being who I am, and comfortable believing in my potential  for change. I’m continuing on that journey, realising those dreams that until I met Tobi I had scarcely dared to dream.”

Tyler V

Marketing Exec, Husband, Father of 4

 

3 WAYS HOW I CAN HELP YOU

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21-DAY FREE EMAIL COURSE

 

No fluff. No lectures. Just one FREE weekly insight to help busy dads cut the noise, lead with purpose, show up fully, and stop feeling like they’re always behind. 

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HYBRID DAD PREMIUM 1:1 COACHING

 

This is premium 1:1 coaching for ambitious, overstretched dads who are ready to live with clarity, connection and control - without burning out or missing what matters most.

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BOOKS, TEMPLATES, COURSES  

 

Proven resources to help you take back control of your time, energy, and focus so you can lead your life with clarity and purpose and not just manage it. 

Explore here

Ben C

Communications Exec, Husband & Father of 3

“Like many, I found it immensely difficult to balance my professional commitments, family life, personal goals, and (lowest on my list) exercise. When I first came across Tobi, I couldn't believe all he did—and moreover, how healthy, cheerful, and positive he presented himself in every interaction. Since I've had the privilege of working with him for several months, my respect for him as only deepened. He's taught me how to focus, prioritize, and to train myself gently, day by day, to be disciplined. He has helped me become a better version of myself. Could not recommend him more highly to anyone in a situation like mine: busy, harried, and seeking order. Tobi's unlike anyone else I know.”

Harrison S

Entrepreneur, Husband & Father of 3

“I've worked with Tobi for close to 3 years now, and I can't say enough good things about him and his programming. We talk at least once per week, and every time I do I feel more present and organized as I approach my life as an entrepreneur and dad of 3.

If you're a high performer who wants to maximize his focus, time, and discipline so you have time for the truly important stuff, you NEED to work with Tobi. He's been an absolute blessing in my life, and I know he will be for yours too.”

Tyler E

Business Owner, Husband & Father of 2

"Since I started working with Tobi I've felt more focused on the "one thing" that really matters in my life and have a renewed energy that has spilt into all other areas. I would highly recommend working with Tobi as it is about as close to a "no-brainer" decision as you can get!"

Troy H

Architect, Husband & Father of 2

"Finding balance between work, home and health has always been a battle and a cause of stress for me. Working with Tobi has been a game changer. I'm more relaxed, focused and healthier than I can ever remember being. Would absolutely recommend, in a flash!!!"

Husband. Father of 7. CEO. Coach. Relentless student of growth. 

Hi, I’m Tobi. I’ve worn a lot of hats, some by choice, others by necessity.

Today, I am the CEO of a charity operating in Scotland, where I started as a volunteer nearly two decades ago. I’m also a coach for high-performing executives who want to scale their impact at work without becoming strangers to their families or themselves.

And here’s what I’ve learned the hard way: doing more is not the answer.

For most of my adult life, I lived with a full plate and took pride in carrying it well.

In my twenties, I commuted to university in one city while working full-time in another. I earned a PhD in Economics while raising a young family and working full-time as a manager.

I was addicted to efficiency. Inbox zero. Colour-coded calendars. Meticulous control.

But eventually, life got bigger than my systems.

In 2024, I burned out.

CEO Tobi

 

I was leading a growing organisation, raising six kids, staying fit and mentoring other dads. From the outside, I looked like I had it all dialled in.

But inside, I was scattered, depleted, and constantly second-guessing myself. I felt like I was failing the people I cared about most.

I’d mastered productivity, but neglected presence.

I believed I could just push harder.

What I needed was to rebuild from the inside out.

 

Discipline isn’t the enemy. It’s the unlock. 

 

We say we want more time, more peace, more energy.

But what we actually need is structure. Not rigidity, but resilience.

A structure that reflects your values.

Systems that align with your identity.

Rhythms that protect what matters most.

Once I stopped trying to balance everything and started engineering a life that supported who I was becoming, everything changed.

That’s where the Hybrid Dad Engine was born.

 

The Hybrid Dad Engine is the system I live by. 

 

It’s built around three interconnected gears:

🟠 Presence — So you lead with clarity, calm, and connection where it matters most

🟠 Progress — So you continue to grow as a man, husband, father, and leader

🟠 Systems — So your time, energy, and effort are deployed with intention and strength

 

This isn’t another performance hack or morning routine template.

It’s a real-life-tested operating system forged in the tension between boardroom leadership, physical training and fatherhood.

I live it.

I coach it.

And I’ll help you build it, so you can thrive in all areas of life without running yourself into the ground.

What I Believe

 

I believe fatherhood is the ultimate test of leadership.

Not because it demands perfection, but because it demands presence.

Being a great dad isn’t about getting it all right. It’s about showing up with intention.

Staying grounded when life gets loud.

Becoming strong enough: mentally, emotionally, physically, so that your family can rest in your steadiness.

This isn’t just a lifestyle adjustment.

It’s a legacy shift.

And I’m here to help high-performing men build that legacy with clarity, strength and systems that hold under pressure.

If you’ve read this far, I appreciate you.

Whether you’re leading a company, a team, a household, or all three,  I’d be honoured to help you build a life that scales with your ambition without costing you what matters most.

Because the man your family needs ten years from now?

He’s being built today.

And you don’t have to build him alone.

Explore How I Can Help You Directly

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Jon F

Bestselling author, Husband & Father of 2

 

“The first time I saw Tobi online he was running through the Scottish Highlands at midnight with a backpack on and a flashlight on his head. The second time he was deadlifting in his home gym at 5AM. And the third time he was taking his kids on a nature hike. My first thought was: this is my kinda guy. My second thought: I wonder what makes him tick? I’ve been lucky enough to get to know Tobi a bit, but for those who want to really understand his philosophy of living: how he runs a business, is a present dad and husband, and manages to stay jacked the whole time. He will put any dad on the path to forging their strongest self.”

 

 Jeremy S

Entrepreneur, Husband & Father of 2

“I first met Tobi almost 2 years ago on Twitter. I started following him for his productivity tips. But I soon learned that he was a CEO, Dad of 6 kids, hybrid athlete tackling some of the toughest races in Scotland all while creating killer content. As a creator, Dad and athlete myself I couldn’t figure out how he was getting it all done at such a high level. He’ll help you apply the principles underlying his systems to your life because the truth is having a job and family is no reason to give up on your health and fitness goals. They’re the reason to become your best self.”

  


 

Ross H

Entrepreneur & Coach

“Tobi is the real deal. A father, husband and man, constantly pushing for progress and setting the example for his family. He doesn’t just “talk the talk” but he walks the walk. He lives by what he shares in the pursuit of becoming the best leader he can be - at home, at work and within himself.”

 


 

Tom H

Software Engineer, Husband, Father of 2

“Tobi's lessons and leadership by example helped me grow as a father and leader. The Hybrid Dad framework is everything you need to become the leader your family as well as your community and business need. Highly recommend.”

 


 

Niklas G

Surgeon, Husband, Father of 3

“Tobi's coaching helped me a lot to get myself more organized and less worried facing daily problems in business using the lessons on mental toughness.”

 


 

Julian G

Software Executive, Husband, Father of 3

“Successful business leader, athlete, father of 6 - Tobi walks the walk in a way very few others can. Everything that attracted me to him when we first chatted played out over the subsequent months we spent together as his insights into work, family, relationships, physical health were all invaluable on the journey I was on. His coaching approach is validated by his unique life experience but comes with a dose of humility and openness that made me feel like I was always in control and getting to the places I needed to be. He's a thoughtful and inspiring person that had a meaningful impact in my life and delighted to now call a friend”

 


 

Creator Alchemy

We discuss humble leadership, building systems over willpower and handling burnout without an off switch. Tobi shares how he leads at home and work, raises 7 kids, stays fit, and coaches high performers.

Present Fathers

We discuss what it means to be a Hybrid Dad. Tobi shares how he balances family, ambition, and mindset, plus the power of support networks and lessons learned from both wins and setbacks.

Front Row Dads

We dive into Tobi’s mental models for aligning passion, purpose and principles. He shares stories of resilience, fatherhood, endurance events and setting boundaries plus a powerful message every parent of kids aged 5 to 11 needs to hear.

Thinking Class

We discuss timeless insights on fatherhood and the impact of technology on kids. And how parenting deepens life, rather than distracting from it.

Startup Dad

We discuss honest lessons on fatherhood, presence, partnership and purpose. Plus raising six kids with intention, values and no shortcuts.

No Limits

We discuss fatherhood, sharing our journeys online, family, marriage and the endless pursuit of fitness to be healthy for our kids.