TOBI'S STORY

 

I’ve spent the last 20 years working in the social care sector in Scotland. Starting as a volunteer and now serving as CEO. Along the way, I earned a PhD in Economics, raised a family of seven with my wife, coached CrossFit and wrote some children's stories. We have built the kind of life we were always dreaming of: meaningful work, deep connections and systems that keep it all from falling apart.

But I’ve also learned that success on paper doesn’t mean peace in your daily life.

The real reward? Helping other dads step out of survival mode and into a life they actually want to live - one built with intention, clarity and presence.

But getting here wasn’t a straight line.

 

For a long time, I lived in pursuit mode: chasing qualifications, stacking responsibilities, trying to prove I could carry it all.

I thought the next title, the next goal or the next personal challenge would finally make life feel lighter. But no matter how many boxes I ticked, I still felt like I was holding everything together with grit alone.

Things shifted when I realised I wasn’t trying to get more done.

I was trying to feel more in control.

And control doesn’t come from cramming more into your calendar. It comes from knowing what matters most, building systems that protect it and living from that place with consistency and purpose.

That’s what I do now for myself and for the men I coach.

I work with dads who are doing everything right on the surface, but underneath, they’re running on empty. They’re good men, pulled in every direction, wondering why “success” still feels like a strain. Together, we slow things down, cut through the noise and build a life they can actually feel present in.

No hustle. No hype. Just clear thinking, practical systems and consistent action.

A sustainable transformation.

I don’t claim to have all the answers. But I’ve spent two decades building a life that works - for my family, my work and myself. And now, I help other dads do the same.

 

If any part of this sounds like your story, I’d be honoured to walk alongside you.

TROY H

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Architect, Husband & Father of 2

"Finding balance between work, home and health has always been a battle and a cause of stress for me. Working with Tobi has been a game changer. I'm more relaxed, focused and healthier than I can ever remember being. Would absolutely recommend, in a flash!!!"

TYLER T

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Entrepreneur, Husband & Father of 3

“Tobi is a man I connected with years ago & instantly inspired me. He’s a man of high integrity & always pushing himself towards better! As a father of 6 he gets the challenges we dads face & provides a clear blueprint to excel. Highly recommend dads level up at their most vital role: fatherhood, with Tobi.”

TYLER E

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Business Owner, Husband & Father of 2

"Since I started working with Tobi I've felt more focused on the "one thing" that really matters in my life and have a renewed energy that has spilt into all other areas. I would highly recommend working with Tobi as it is about as close to a "no-brainer" decision as you can get!"

 

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